What if you could start from a point of considering what you dont want as a way to gain some clarity in your life?

The biggest obstacle that most people have is that they are not clear on what they want. For some it can it can be a long soul searching experience and for a few it seems graceful and easy.

What I have found is that when I try to focus on what I want there seems to be inner blockages that prevent me from getting clear. This is becuause on a sub conscious level we are focusing on what we dont want or have some deep seated beliefs or excuses that get in the way.

This simple excercise may help you to clarify some of the issues about getting clear:

Take a piece of clean paper and draw a line down the middle. On the top left write “What I dont want or dont like” and on the top right of the paper write “what I want or like”.

Think of a theme like going on a vacation.

List on the left side of the paper list all the things you dont want in terms of going on a vacation. For example: “I dont want to be in a crowed area of tourists”, “”I dont want to travel very far to get to the desitination”, “I dont want to have another vacation by the sea”.

Now counter these “dont want”  statements with what you do want. For example “I want to visit a location where there is hardly anyone around such as a national park”, “I want to travel within 5 hours of where I live”, “I want to have a vacation in a natural environment”

The above is one of many examples of how you can flip switch from what is not wanted to what is wanted and in that process more clarity emerges from the excercise.

This is a simple excersice yet very revealing.

I hope this was of value to you in some way.

You may be down on your luck with money or the state of economy is making your feel anxious and so this kicks in thoughts of lack and scarcity. All of this seems real enough yet within you is a natural place of Abundance which is even more real however it requires you to switch back to thoughts and feelings of abundance.

Abundance is more of a feeling than a thought. When you feel abundant you are connected to your natural state. So your job here is not to try to “become” abundant but realise that you already have the Abundance within you in the form of the power to re direct your thoughts towards whatever you desire.

Napoleon Hill who wrote the classic book “think and grow rich” came to the conclusion that we are already born rich from birth and it is our job to use our minds to move in the direction we want to go. It takes  discipline and a realisation that our thoughts are things and whatever we dwell on becomes more real for us.

If you take a walk in nature you will witness the natural abundance around you. How many blades of grass are in a field?

Just like nature we come from the same Source. Unfortunately the news and media tell us something quite different.

Perhaps it is time to switch off the news and refrain from reading the newspapers and start appreciating what you have, what you have had and will have. Start small and slowly build up that feeling of abundance that is your natural right to experience.

Abundance is your natural state – just keep reminding yourself of that when it all seems like a challenge.

Today, 23rd September, marks the day where we begin the 100 day countdown to the end of the year. It is an opportunity to reflect on where you have come and what adjustments you will make as the year comes to a close in just over 3 months.

As this blog focuses on Law of Attraction, think and about the things you want and focus on those on each day and spend less time dwelling on what is not wanted in your life. Here are some questions to reflect on as you go forward to end the year on a positive note:

1. What specific results have you achieved so far this year?
2. Are you healthier, wealthier, and wiser?
3. Are you winning, losing or just holding ground?
4. What results are you committed to achieve by the end of the year?
5. How have you grown and what have you learned this year?
6. Is there any unfinished business that needs to be tended to in your life?
7. Are you actively pursuing what’s most important on a daily basis?
8. What habits do you need to change to ensure better results?
9. What is the key issue that inhibits your ability to perform
at your best?

Answer these questions with total honesty and as you move forward use each precious day as an opportunity to make this part of the year the most amazing finish setting you up for an even more successful 2010.

There is a tremendous power in the process of asking questions. Questions hook the mind.The key is to ask the right kind of questions not only with others but also towards yourself.

When I coach clients I hear comments like “why am I so unlucky with partners?” or “Why am I always investing in the wrong area?”. What do you think these kinds of questions elicit?

When I consider these questions  I can just imagine unlucky situations with partners or feeling scared about making the right investment in case I get it wrong again.

Remember, questions hook the mind. What you say to yourself you become.

Asking questions from a resourceful place can literally change your life. Like “What is good about the fact that I have not found the right partner yet?” This questions then elicits “good” aspects like:

I am enjoying my freedom before I meet the right partner. I have realised what I don ´t want in a partner and now I am focusing on all the great things I want in a partner. It could be that its been a blessing rather than “bad luck” so far before my ideal partner shows up. Get the drift?

So asking questions that elicit  supportive or positive responses helps you to change the way you think and feel and when you change the way you think and feel gradually the world out there shifts based on the stories and scenarios you are painting within your mind.

I believe that nothing has meaning except the meaning I give it. I choose to create a meaningful life based on stories and life situations that support and help me in my journey and asking the right questions are part of this important process of growth and happiness.

Remember, you become your questions.

I recently attended a course on accelerated learning methods to train other people to retain information for longer and in a fun way. One tip I can share is to celebrate your successes often.

When you acknowledge yourself for doing things that support you, you are telling your sub conciousness mind that you are there for you.

Fore example when I notice I am doing something good or right for me I will make a fist with my right hand and say “YES”, either I shout it or do it silently but with “feeling”.

Now this may sound a bit wierd for some readers. If you consider that this is all about raising your energy and the language of sub conscious  is feeling and energy then what you are doing is anchoring moments throughout the day that support you. In time the sub conscious will get it and you will start feeling and seeing life differently.

So when I balance my bank account, go for a run, write a blog article, find money in the street or in my wardrobe etc I anchor with a “YES” sound and clentch my fist.

Notice that the top tennis players carry out this action when they make a breakthrough on court. What is good enough for them is good enough for me.

Try this simple technique often or when you catch yourself doing something right and support yourself and celebrate all your wins both small and big.

You have to be there for you. You are your own best friend.

Recently I have been giving my power away to a whole host of excuses for not getting on with my life and projects.  As a result I have made a study into this to begin to undo these habits one by one.

All excuses are mental habit patterns formed in the subconscious. When they are given power by our our thinking they grow and grow and then these very excuses can take us out in whatever project we care to start.

As a result we see life as a struggle and see the Universe as against us as opposed to for us. What really is happening is that the thinking habits which manifest in the form of excuses are the things against us and so we struggle.

Life is 100% for each of us and this is an important insight to begin the excuses clearing process.

Here are a few excuses…

I am too old, I have left it too late, the economy is bad and so there are no opportunities out there, I always seem to be unlucky, this is too difficult, it will take me too much time and so on.

Now Think of one excuse you have been putting up with.

What would life be like if that excuses is no longer a part of your life?

How would you feel if this excuse was no longer in your life?

What options lay before you as you imagine you are free of this excuse?

Perhaps you can ponder these questions and write down some thoughts around imagining the excuse you have is no longer operating and you can see with new eyes.

Begin to imagine life without excuses and enjoy the ride.

Are you willing to change? When I am confronted with this question my initial answer is “sure”, however, when I dig a little deeper I realise that there are excuses and resistance running wild that need to be identified and released.

Whether it is a job change, a health change, a relationship or a change in my finances or just the decision to take full responsibility for my circumstances it all  starts with a willingness to change.

I may not be ready to change something or I may have resistance to change an aspect of my life. However, for any change to take place there has to be a willingness to take back any blame for what may or may not have happened and that also means not blaming oneself.

For example,  I made  a property investment a few years ago and soon after spent alot of time blaming myself and the real estate agent for advising me in the wrong way as the property prices did not go up as I expected.  However, as soon as I gave up the blame game and took full responsibility for this and was willing to see this differently things shifted and within a couple of months I sold the property  in spite of the housing market down turn.

It started with a willingeness to change and take responsibility and from there my energy shifted in a supportive and positive way. My behaviour and actions reflected in this decision.

This whole process can start by making a sincere declaration such as “I am willing to change this”.  Say it in the mirror for 5 minutes and with conviction and intensity.  Say it with heart.

Let go of the outcome and be willing to change your thoughts or actions about whatever you are want to change in your life.

Our excuses are like mind viruses that can really quench the fire of our desires and dreams leaving us in a place of feeling stuck or in some kind of inertia about life. The important first step is to become aware of excuses and from there one can take steps to remove them, one excuse at a time.

Excuses get sealed into our minds at a very early age. According to Wayne Dyer in his latest book “Excuses begone”,  he states that excuses are mind viruses that have been transferred from other people to you such as your parents, teaches or via the TV.

Excuses become so much a part of us that they turn into reactionary habits of thinking that get to a point where we use words like, “I cant change because this is the way I am” or “this kind of thinking runs in the family” or ” I am too old, too young, too broke, to tired to make changes”

If you buy into these statement or beliefs then there is little hope you will ever go beyond them.

A decision has to be made when you can declare “If  I created these excuses then I have the power to erase them one at a time”. It is important to remember that you are in control of your thinking process and no matter how steep an excuse or addiction is you can erase it from your life as long as you have the willingness, awareness and patience to do so.

A simple exercise is to use this excuse busting formula..

When I…., then I will be able to…..

For example. When I am not suffering from fatigue then I will exercise regularly.

When I find the right job then I will be more peaceful and contented.

If you are reading this then a part of you knows that you have excuses that you are allowing to tow you around by the nose and its time to shake them off your memory banks.

This theme is quite extensive and will post more about this at a later date.

I have been working on goals for some years and this area is one of the most challenging areas for most people to get right. It is not just about getting clear on what they want it is also keeping the theme of the goal simple.

Most people start off focusing on what they don´t want. This is fine to a point, however, if you keep focusing on what you don´t want you will get more of the same. The key is to keep the focus on what you don´t want brief.

Brief could mean a few minutes, a few hours or a few days depending on your situation and the context. The point is not to dwell on what is wrong or what you have not got.  Instead switch to what you desire and what excites you. If there is no excitement then review what you want even if this will take you some soul searching time.

The other part to this is to get clear and keep the goal simple. For example..

“On or before 30th December 2009 I will have increased my internet earnings by $5000 a month and will have set up 10 passive income streams as well as invested in buying gold”.

The question you need to ask yourself is what is the focus of this goal? To me it has three elements which will only confuse your sub conscious and you will get nowhere with this goal even though your intentions are good.

For me the goal would feel better if I state:

On or before the 30th December, I will have generated an additional $5000 a month on the internet”

This goal is specific, with a date and I have  built in flexibility that the goal could be achieved before the 3oth December. The key here is that I am  focused on one theme – earning an extra $5000.

The Universe responds to simplicity and so I suggest that you keep it simple or as I term it the KIS (keep it simple) approach.

When I look at how many goal setting programs focus on doing something or having something new that you currently don´t have, I find the crucial part missing in all of this  is “who am I becoming in the process?”.

Jim Rohn, one of America´s most respected personal development teachers really builds on this aspect of living a better life. He proposes that people set a goal on making $1 million. This is not just about having a ton of money. The crucial part of this is to ask “who am I becoming in the process of making this money” more than “what am I getting”.

Setting a big goal like this is about how you will evolve as a person rather than the thing itself.

The process for many people towards having a better life is based on the “do then have then be” principle. This can be a recipe for disappointment and emptiness. I know, because I have tried this.

Instead, consider the idea of  Be, then do, then have. By being the person you want to become will start the synchronisation process of attracting into your life not only the person you want to be but also the stuff that comes with it.

“Be that which you want..now”.

I was listening to a radio interview the other day and I really liked this comment:

“Pay more attention on what you want to become and less on what you want to overcome”.

I don´t know about you but sometimes when I have a challenge or a problem I can spend so much energy trying to overcome it and so focus too much on the problem that I lose sight of who I want to be on the other side of the problem.

I suggest that when a challenge arises in your life, acknowledge it and remind yourself of the person you want to be or become beyond the challenge you currently face.

Feeling in a stuck situation  has been a major challenge for me over a long period of time and feeling stuck can be one of the most challenging places to be and at the same time it can be a major life lesson.

When I have been stuck I notice that different parts of me are in conflict and one of the ways to get unstuck is to acknowledge and respect this space and bring in other parts of me that are creative to help to resolve the conflict.

This is not a magic pill for getting unstuck, however, it is a way to begin to accept parts of yourself and to become more aware. When there is full awareness of a condition such as this, there is also the opportunity to begin to let it go and gradually move forward.

So here are some steps..

1) Accept and allow the feeling of stuckness to be in your life in an open and accepting way. Don´t try to get rid of it or push it away. Treat it like a separate person and dialogue with that part of you and ask questions such as  “why are you in my life right now?” or “what do you need” or “what messages do you have for me that I need to understand”?

2) Bring in a creative aspect of yourself. Make it up if you have to. Imagine a wise and creative side of you suggesting some new options or new ways of seeing that will also help that stuck part to relax and to open to a new way of seeing.

3) If that stuck part does not want to move then respect it and be with it and know that there is a very good reason for this and when you understand why it is in your life, that stuck feeling will begin to move on

4) Also know that no condition is permanent and in time things will move and change. So patience may be a factor in going beyond a stuck phase. Say to yourself  “this, too, shall pass”.

5) Acknowledge yourself for being willing to dialogue with these parts of yourself. By starting this process, you have begun the letting go process which will change when you least expect it.

This theme deserves a book, however, by applying these simple steps above will go along way to help melt the stuckness and begin to welcome more flow in your life.

One thing I have noticed with people launching into learning the Law of Attraction is that many do this without full awareness of their intentions. Above everything else, awareness is the key to lasting change and the good news is that it is something that each of us have and will always have.

What do I mean by awareness?

Awareness is the ability to notice, to observe what you are thinking, feeling and behaving as if you are watching a stranger. This process is done with openness and without judgement.

Let´s relate this to the Law of Attraction. For example, I want to set a desire to have $100,000. This can be a good intention, however, I need to be aware of where is this intention coming from and what is my motive.

If I notice I am feeling alot of fear that I don´t have money or I want the money to look good in other people´s eyes then this motive is coming from an ego perspective and the chances are the journey towards attracting this money could be fraught with stress and anxiety because the root emotion is fear.

Do you see how awareness plays an important role in this process?

It is all about noticing, witness without analysing. In my example above I noticed the emotion of fear in the process of deciding what I want.

If, however, I notice that I feel expansion in my body, enthusiasm and expectation when I set the goal to attract $100,000 then awareness is pointing me towards supportive energies that will give me a great start in the process of attracting the people, information and events that will support me in achieving my goal.

Whatever your situation and wherever you are, you can build the muscle of Awareness today. Start noticing the small things by beginning the process of stepping outside yourself and notice how you think, talk, act and behave – without judgement or condemnation.

Make this fun and don´t get stressed out in getting this awareness thing right first time. Its like riding a bike, its takes time and a few tries before it becomes more of a natural part of your life.

The process is liberating and can bring you more peace and understanding.

It is easy to feel like a victim of the problems of the world economic situation. Many people are becoming money victims. People are believing there is no money or opportunities and the best thing is to not do anything and “wait” for things to get better.

We can blame the governments or our circumstances. We may be complaining that there is not enough money, no jobs, no future or some other thing.

Blaming and complaining are like viruses of the mind. When we blame or complain we actually push opportunities away from us. Blaming and complaining can cover up deeper beliefs of feeling like a failure or feeling like a victim to life.

There are two economies – “the economy” and “my economy”. I can take charge of my economy by taking responsibility for how I think, feel and act.

For the next week make a commitment to not complain or blame anyone or the circumstances you find yourself in. This is a daily practice and it is not easy to do. However, try it for a week and then check with yourself as to how feel from this change of behaviour. You will probably feel better and in more control of your life. You may even begin to attract new opportunities into your life despite the economy out there.

Working with the Law of Attraction requires an understanding of the finer aspects of the Law. So many people who get inspired by the Law are trying to get somewhere and are very much future focused.

Attraction only ever happens in the now. This is because the Law of Attraction has neither a present nor a  past – it works on vibrationary levels and you are always vibrating or emitting energy like Now.

So when a person imagines wanting the new car, relationship or house they can set it up in their minds that it will come at some future time. The trick is to flip perception as if it is already granted now or a now experience.

This can be a tough one to accept because if I intend for $10,000 and I come from a Now experience a bag of money just does not fall on my head. It does require a space time process in order to build the vibration to match the desire.

This also involves clearing away any mental negative static and blockers so as to free up energy to vibrationally match the desire you intend.

Also action is part of this formula. As Einstein once said “nothing happens until something moves”.

So if you have a goal or desire begin to see it as already in material form and focus on that intention frequently until the vibration of your desire matches the vibration of the end result.

Like all things, this requires practice and discipline to build the vibrational muscle and is not a magic pill subscription to solve all your challenges in one day.

Recently I have been pondering on the fear and anxiety that is being felt by millions of people around the world as a result of the news that is flying around every hour about how bad the world and financial system is. I realise that at times I am buying into the “trance” that the media has set up which can be very disempowering if I keep giving my power away to this information.

I know the facts are that we are living in very challenging times and the future looks uncertain. However, I am choosing to not buy into the volumes of media coverage that say its all going down the pan because by doing this I am setting myself up to become a victim of these times.

When you are in the victim space you end up giving your power away to others such as institutions and Governments and then you become helpless and passive as to what you think you cannot do. Circumstances decide what is best for you which is usually you become more of a victim as opposed to you deciding what is good and right for you.

So is the credit crunch made up?

From my perspective if I keep saying to myself  “there is a crisis and I am going to lose all my money” then that statement if repeated a few hundred times, usually unconsciously, will become my truth because I have made it up to be real in my mind.

What I am pointing to is that we can take external information and form strong beliefs around them and then these become group beliefs and from this we shape the results based on these beliefs.

I am not avoiding the challenges we are in, however, I am choosing to turn the volume down on fear and increasing the volume of feeling at ease and feeling good  – every day.

I suggest that if you are feeling anxious about the future go on a diet of watching the news for not more than 5 minutes a day and spend the rest of the times feeling gratitude and appreciation for who you are and what you have in your life.

If you can refrain from watching news or reading papers for say a week then you are in the process of turning down the volume of fear and turning up the volume of well being and hope in your life.

Wishing you an empowering time as we all move through this period of change and transformation.