James Kilgarriff’s Weblog

When I look at how many goal setting programs focus on doing something or having something new that you currently don´t have, I find the crucial part missing in all of this  is “who am I becoming in the process?”.

Jim Rohn, one of America´s most respected personal development teachers really builds on this aspect of living a better life. He proposes that people set a goal on making $1 million. This is not just about having a ton of money. The crucial part of this is to ask “who am I becoming in the process of making this money” more than “what am I getting”.

Setting a big goal like this is about how you will evolve as a person rather than the thing itself.

The process for many people towards having a better life is based on the “do then have then be” principle. This can be a recipe for disappointment and emptiness. I know, because I have tried this.

Instead, consider the idea of  Be, then do, then have. By being the person you want to become will start the synchronisation process of attracting into your life not only the person you want to be but also the stuff that comes with it.

“Be that which you want..now”.

I was listening to a radio interview the other day and I really liked this comment:

“Pay more attention on what you want to become and less on what you want to overcome”.

I don´t know about you but sometimes when I have a challenge or a problem I can spend so much energy trying to overcome it and so focus too much on the problem that I lose sight of who I want to be on the other side of the problem.

I suggest that when a challenge arises in your life, acknowledge it and remind yourself of the person you want to be or become beyond the challenge you currently face.