What dont you want? November 4, 2009
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What if you could start from a point of considering what you dont want as a way to gain some clarity in your life?
The biggest obstacle that most people have is that they are not clear on what they want. For some it can it can be a long soul searching experience and for a few it seems graceful and easy.
What I have found is that when I try to focus on what I want there seems to be inner blockages that prevent me from getting clear. This is becuause on a sub conscious level we are focusing on what we dont want or have some deep seated beliefs or excuses that get in the way.
This simple excercise may help you to clarify some of the issues about getting clear:
Take a piece of clean paper and draw a line down the middle. On the top left write “What I dont want or dont like” and on the top right of the paper write “what I want or like”.
Think of a theme like going on a vacation.
List on the left side of the paper list all the things you dont want in terms of going on a vacation. For example: “I dont want to be in a crowed area of tourists”, “”I dont want to travel very far to get to the desitination”, “I dont want to have another vacation by the sea”.
Now counter these “dont want” statements with what you do want. For example “I want to visit a location where there is hardly anyone around such as a national park”, “I want to travel within 5 hours of where I live”, “I want to have a vacation in a natural environment”
The above is one of many examples of how you can flip switch from what is not wanted to what is wanted and in that process more clarity emerges from the excercise.
This is a simple excersice yet very revealing.
I hope this was of value to you in some way.
Abundance is your natural state September 25, 2009
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You may be down on your luck with money or the state of economy is making your feel anxious and so this kicks in thoughts of lack and scarcity. All of this seems real enough yet within you is a natural place of Abundance which is even more real however it requires you to switch back to thoughts and feelings of abundance.
Abundance is more of a feeling than a thought. When you feel abundant you are connected to your natural state. So your job here is not to try to “become” abundant but realise that you already have the Abundance within you in the form of the power to re direct your thoughts towards whatever you desire.
Napoleon Hill who wrote the classic book “think and grow rich” came to the conclusion that we are already born rich from birth and it is our job to use our minds to move in the direction we want to go. It takes discipline and a realisation that our thoughts are things and whatever we dwell on becomes more real for us.
If you take a walk in nature you will witness the natural abundance around you. How many blades of grass are in a field?
Just like nature we come from the same Source. Unfortunately the news and media tell us something quite different.
Perhaps it is time to switch off the news and refrain from reading the newspapers and start appreciating what you have, what you have had and will have. Start small and slowly build up that feeling of abundance that is your natural right to experience.
Abundance is your natural state – just keep reminding yourself of that when it all seems like a challenge.
100 day countdown to end of 2009 September 23, 2009
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Today, 23rd September, marks the day where we begin the 100 day countdown to the end of the year. It is an opportunity to reflect on where you have come and what adjustments you will make as the year comes to a close in just over 3 months.
As this blog focuses on Law of Attraction, think and about the things you want and focus on those on each day and spend less time dwelling on what is not wanted in your life. Here are some questions to reflect on as you go forward to end the year on a positive note:
1. What specific results have you achieved so far this year?
2. Are you healthier, wealthier, and wiser?
3. Are you winning, losing or just holding ground?
4. What results are you committed to achieve by the end of the year?
5. How have you grown and what have you learned this year?
6. Is there any unfinished business that needs to be tended to in your life?
7. Are you actively pursuing what’s most important on a daily basis?
8. What habits do you need to change to ensure better results?
9. What is the key issue that inhibits your ability to perform
at your best?
Answer these questions with total honesty and as you move forward use each precious day as an opportunity to make this part of the year the most amazing finish setting you up for an even more successful 2010.
You become your questions September 20, 2009
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There is a tremendous power in the process of asking questions. Questions hook the mind.The key is to ask the right kind of questions not only with others but also towards yourself.
When I coach clients I hear comments like “why am I so unlucky with partners?” or “Why am I always investing in the wrong area?”. What do you think these kinds of questions elicit?
When I consider these questions I can just imagine unlucky situations with partners or feeling scared about making the right investment in case I get it wrong again.
Remember, questions hook the mind. What you say to yourself you become.
Asking questions from a resourceful place can literally change your life. Like “What is good about the fact that I have not found the right partner yet?” This questions then elicits “good” aspects like:
I am enjoying my freedom before I meet the right partner. I have realised what I don ´t want in a partner and now I am focusing on all the great things I want in a partner. It could be that its been a blessing rather than “bad luck” so far before my ideal partner shows up. Get the drift?
So asking questions that elicit supportive or positive responses helps you to change the way you think and feel and when you change the way you think and feel gradually the world out there shifts based on the stories and scenarios you are painting within your mind.
I believe that nothing has meaning except the meaning I give it. I choose to create a meaningful life based on stories and life situations that support and help me in my journey and asking the right questions are part of this important process of growth and happiness.
Remember, you become your questions.
Celebrate successes often August 14, 2009
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I recently attended a course on accelerated learning methods to train other people to retain information for longer and in a fun way. One tip I can share is to celebrate your successes often.
When you acknowledge yourself for doing things that support you, you are telling your sub conciousness mind that you are there for you.
Fore example when I notice I am doing something good or right for me I will make a fist with my right hand and say “YES”, either I shout it or do it silently but with “feeling”.
Now this may sound a bit wierd for some readers. If you consider that this is all about raising your energy and the language of sub conscious is feeling and energy then what you are doing is anchoring moments throughout the day that support you. In time the sub conscious will get it and you will start feeling and seeing life differently.
So when I balance my bank account, go for a run, write a blog article, find money in the street or in my wardrobe etc I anchor with a “YES” sound and clentch my fist.
Notice that the top tennis players carry out this action when they make a breakthrough on court. What is good enough for them is good enough for me.
Try this simple technique often or when you catch yourself doing something right and support yourself and celebrate all your wins both small and big.
You have to be there for you. You are your own best friend.
Imagine life without excuses June 23, 2009
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Recently I have been giving my power away to a whole host of excuses for not getting on with my life and projects. As a result I have made a study into this to begin to undo these habits one by one.
All excuses are mental habit patterns formed in the subconscious. When they are given power by our our thinking they grow and grow and then these very excuses can take us out in whatever project we care to start.
As a result we see life as a struggle and see the Universe as against us as opposed to for us. What really is happening is that the thinking habits which manifest in the form of excuses are the things against us and so we struggle.
Life is 100% for each of us and this is an important insight to begin the excuses clearing process.
Here are a few excuses…
I am too old, I have left it too late, the economy is bad and so there are no opportunities out there, I always seem to be unlucky, this is too difficult, it will take me too much time and so on.
Now Think of one excuse you have been putting up with.
What would life be like if that excuses is no longer a part of your life?
How would you feel if this excuse was no longer in your life?
What options lay before you as you imagine you are free of this excuse?
Perhaps you can ponder these questions and write down some thoughts around imagining the excuse you have is no longer operating and you can see with new eyes.
Begin to imagine life without excuses and enjoy the ride.
Are you willing to change? June 18, 2009
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Are you willing to change? When I am confronted with this question my initial answer is “sure”, however, when I dig a little deeper I realise that there are excuses and resistance running wild that need to be identified and released.
Whether it is a job change, a health change, a relationship or a change in my finances or just the decision to take full responsibility for my circumstances it all starts with a willingness to change.
I may not be ready to change something or I may have resistance to change an aspect of my life. However, for any change to take place there has to be a willingness to take back any blame for what may or may not have happened and that also means not blaming oneself.
For example, I made a property investment a few years ago and soon after spent alot of time blaming myself and the real estate agent for advising me in the wrong way as the property prices did not go up as I expected. However, as soon as I gave up the blame game and took full responsibility for this and was willing to see this differently things shifted and within a couple of months I sold the property in spite of the housing market down turn.
It started with a willingeness to change and take responsibility and from there my energy shifted in a supportive and positive way. My behaviour and actions reflected in this decision.
This whole process can start by making a sincere declaration such as “I am willing to change this”. Say it in the mirror for 5 minutes and with conviction and intensity. Say it with heart.
Let go of the outcome and be willing to change your thoughts or actions about whatever you are want to change in your life.
Excuses are like mind viruses June 17, 2009
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Our excuses are like mind viruses that can really quench the fire of our desires and dreams leaving us in a place of feeling stuck or in some kind of inertia about life. The important first step is to become aware of excuses and from there one can take steps to remove them, one excuse at a time.
Excuses get sealed into our minds at a very early age. According to Wayne Dyer in his latest book “Excuses begone”, he states that excuses are mind viruses that have been transferred from other people to you such as your parents, teaches or via the TV.
Excuses become so much a part of us that they turn into reactionary habits of thinking that get to a point where we use words like, “I cant change because this is the way I am” or “this kind of thinking runs in the family” or ” I am too old, too young, too broke, to tired to make changes”
If you buy into these statement or beliefs then there is little hope you will ever go beyond them.
A decision has to be made when you can declare “If I created these excuses then I have the power to erase them one at a time”. It is important to remember that you are in control of your thinking process and no matter how steep an excuse or addiction is you can erase it from your life as long as you have the willingness, awareness and patience to do so.
A simple exercise is to use this excuse busting formula..
When I…., then I will be able to…..
For example. When I am not suffering from fatigue then I will exercise regularly.
When I find the right job then I will be more peaceful and contented.
If you are reading this then a part of you knows that you have excuses that you are allowing to tow you around by the nose and its time to shake them off your memory banks.
This theme is quite extensive and will post more about this at a later date.
How can I set a simple goal? June 16, 2009
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I have been working on goals for some years and this area is one of the most challenging areas for most people to get right. It is not just about getting clear on what they want it is also keeping the theme of the goal simple.
Most people start off focusing on what they don´t want. This is fine to a point, however, if you keep focusing on what you don´t want you will get more of the same. The key is to keep the focus on what you don´t want brief.
Brief could mean a few minutes, a few hours or a few days depending on your situation and the context. The point is not to dwell on what is wrong or what you have not got. Instead switch to what you desire and what excites you. If there is no excitement then review what you want even if this will take you some soul searching time.
The other part to this is to get clear and keep the goal simple. For example..
“On or before 30th December 2009 I will have increased my internet earnings by $5000 a month and will have set up 10 passive income streams as well as invested in buying gold”.
The question you need to ask yourself is what is the focus of this goal? To me it has three elements which will only confuse your sub conscious and you will get nowhere with this goal even though your intentions are good.
For me the goal would feel better if I state:
On or before the 30th December, I will have generated an additional $5000 a month on the internet”
This goal is specific, with a date and I have built in flexibility that the goal could be achieved before the 3oth December. The key here is that I am focused on one theme – earning an extra $5000.
The Universe responds to simplicity and so I suggest that you keep it simple or as I term it the KIS (keep it simple) approach.
Focusing on who you want to become May 29, 2009
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When I look at how many goal setting programs focus on doing something or having something new that you currently don´t have, I find the crucial part missing in all of this is “who am I becoming in the process?”.
Jim Rohn, one of America´s most respected personal development teachers really builds on this aspect of living a better life. He proposes that people set a goal on making $1 million. This is not just about having a ton of money. The crucial part of this is to ask “who am I becoming in the process of making this money” more than “what am I getting”.
Setting a big goal like this is about how you will evolve as a person rather than the thing itself.
The process for many people towards having a better life is based on the “do then have then be” principle. This can be a recipe for disappointment and emptiness. I know, because I have tried this.
Instead, consider the idea of Be, then do, then have. By being the person you want to become will start the synchronisation process of attracting into your life not only the person you want to be but also the stuff that comes with it.
“Be that which you want..now”.
I was listening to a radio interview the other day and I really liked this comment:
“Pay more attention on what you want to become and less on what you want to overcome”.
I don´t know about you but sometimes when I have a challenge or a problem I can spend so much energy trying to overcome it and so focus too much on the problem that I lose sight of who I want to be on the other side of the problem.
I suggest that when a challenge arises in your life, acknowledge it and remind yourself of the person you want to be or become beyond the challenge you currently face.
